5 Steps to Happy

Stuck in a rut? Drained and down? Here’s five steps you can take to regain control of your happiness. It’s your path to choose, choose happiness.

#1 Spend More Time With Positive People

Nothing can bring you down faster than Negative Nancy. You know, those friends that leave you feeling drained and belittled after a catch up instead of inspired  and beloved. The ones that spend more time bringing others down (whether they’re around to hear or not) than lifting them up. They are the people you need to avoid and replace with the people who do the exact opposite. It is tried and true that we become like those who we are around most. Negative minds don’t make happy people, therefore, those negative friends you have can bring your happiness levels down to a dangerously low level. Ditch them – for your own sake. 

#2 Learn To Forgive

Forgiveness takes courage but carrying a grudge can seriously weigh you down. It is more respectful to yourself to forgive others for whatever it may be. Forgiving doesn’t mean you have to forget what happened, nor does it mean you are saying “it’s okay.”  It means you are willing to put the past behind you, move on without the weight of a grudge and take back control of your own happiness.  Lifting that weight will bring you peace, which is a pathway to happiness. 

#3 Don’t Be Afraid of Mistakes

Whether you’ve made them or you’re about to make one, stop being afraid of them. It’s human nature to make mistakes because that is how we learn. The only problem you should have with mistakes is repeating them – and if you have learned, you won’t. In the end, you will always regret the things you didn’t do rather than the things you did. 

#4 Be Grateful

For everything positive you have in your life, large or small. Unfortunately, not everyone in this world is blessed with food, shelter, love, friendship and an abundance of other things we take for granted. Things we see and do, especially those little things we look past everyday, all of those small, beautiful moments will turn out to be the best of your life. Be grateful for them because one day they may not be there. 

#5 Trust Your Instincts & Follow Your Dreams

I know, there’s two steps here, but I think they go hand in hand. We all have dreams and goals we want to achieve. What’s stopping you? Other people? Yourself? There comes a time when we need to stop listening to other people and start listening to ourselves. Your instincts know what’s best – always. We will never be happy if we don’t achieve what we wish to. Find your passion, follow your instincts and choose happiness no matter which road you have to take. 

A Handful of Things I am Grateful For

Must get this! @Etsy

Lately I’ve been letting myself become a little too negative. I guess being a week overdue would have something to do with it but it’s still not a valid excuse to be a misery to be around. So, in an effort to cheer myself up I’ve decided to make a little list of things I’m grateful for.

  1. My supportive family. I honestly don’t know what I would do without them. They’ve been helping me so much while Ryan has been working away . 
  2. My dog. No matter how much of a sad sack I can be and have been lately, my girl always greets me with a happy face & wagging tail. 
  3. My friends. Once again, I’ve been a sad sack to be around. Not that I’ve been seeing any of my friends lately (sorry guys!). But they still put in such an effort to keep in contact and make sure I’m okay. How lucky am I?
  4. My partner. No matter how far away he is, just hearing his voice reassures me that everything is going to be okay. He’s put up with me for this long, mood swings and all. Once again, how lucky am I?
  5. My bundle of joy. Who I’m so anxious to meet.
  6. My health. Even though I feel like crap, I’m still 100% healthy. Not many people can say that, I’m really grateful that I can.

What are you grateful for?


The Power of Positive Thought

Or, can you? Is every successful person you know an optimist? Are they truly happy? I think this depends on our individual definitions of success and happiness. To me, success is getting the most out of your life, that is following your dreams, sharing your passion and fulfilling your goals. I believe happiness is a state of mind, it’s about enjoying your journey to success and being content through the good and the bad. I suppose that also depends on ones goals. If one of your goals in life is to become an Olympic Gold Medalist, is positive thinking alone going to get you there? Hell no! A whole lot of hard work combined with optimistic thought will, however.

Some of us seem to confuse optimism with unrealistic thought. Those who call themselves a ‘realist’ are just wearing a mask to hide their pessimistic attitude. You can be realistic and optimistic, believe it or not. So another question I will ask is, did the successful people you know get to the top with a negative attitude? My guess is, probably not. A person who continually says ‘I can’t’ plain and simply never will. I do believe our thoughts can hinder us from achieving what we desire to.

I was diagnosed with clinical depression when I was sixteen. Since then I have been treated successfully and my entire outlook on life completely changed. My grades significantly improved, I was eating super healthy and became a fitness junkie. I even gained a number of friendships and real ones at that. However, since becoming pregnant and unable to take medication, things seemed to have changed that ultimately shouldn’t have. I cry more, my insecurities have been heightened, I eat horrible food (not just when I’m having a craving) and I’ve become the girlfriend from hell. I can’t blame hormones for this. Because, while it’s true that pregnancy hormones do cause mood swings, food cravings and the weight gain can make us feel less attractive, the way everyday life for me has changed is beyond that, I blame my negative mind. It’s only now I’ve realised what a difference to our lives we can make by changing our thought pattern, even if we need a little medical help.

Right now, I’m actively trying everyday to change my mind-frame. I want to wake up everyday believing that today is going to be a good day, no matter what. Here’s a few things that are helping me along:

This is a collection of positive quotes that I love to read when I need a little shove in the right thought direction.

  • Daydreaming about the future

Sometimes I find that refocusing on the things I want to achieve in my lifetime makes me happy. Taking your thoughts away from the past, bringing them to the present and focusing on how you can achieve your goals can be a real mood booster.

  • Write a list of (or mentally note) everything you are grateful for

There are a lot of things that we all possess that others wish they were fortunate enough to have. I’m grateful to have a loving family, supportive friends, an amazing partner and a baby on the way. It’s hard for me to comprehend my life without any of these things. But the reality is, some people don’t have their family, or very few real friends or the ability to reproduce. I consider myself extremely lucky to have all of these things.

In turn, I guess it is true – you can’t live a positive life with a negative mind.